I delight in getting my hands on a good memoir. One filled with honesty, great writing, and a look into a topic that interests me. In this case, having a baby. Carey Goldberg, Beth Jones, and Pamela Ferdinand had such a unique experience when it came to getting pregnant and having babies, they definitely deserved a book deal! What pours out of this book is love for children and friendship, and women being truly honest with themselves about what they want.
Carey is single and nearing 40, determined to have a baby, even if it means doing it all on her own. She orders 8 vials of sperm from a donation bank, set on being a single mom. Fast forward a few months and she's in love and pregnant...the natural way. She passes the sperm vials on to Beth, again single and nearing 40, wanting a baby more than anything. She ends up in love and pregnant...the natural way. And then comes Pam, next in line for the sperm. Same story, same outcome. Amazing right?
Not only is the whole story just mind-boggling, it is so well-written that you will not want to put it down. Told in alternating chapters from each woman's perspective we get the good AND the bad, from miscarriages to babies with abnormalities to marriages and healthy births. As a woman having suffered from several of the issues discussed in these pages, I was touched when these women wrote things such as:
"That is what miscarriage does to you; a positive pregnancy test means nothing more than a promising start. It is better than nothing, but too far from a baby for real elation."
All of them get it. They get what it's like to try and try and try and have no results. They get what it's like to get so excited and hopeful and have it all come crashing down with a few drops of blood or a devastating ultrasound. For those of us that have suffered from either infertility or the inability to carry babies to term OR not being able to find love before the desire for children hits, this book will resonate loud and clear. You may not agree with some of the choices Carey, Beth, and Pam make throughout their journeys, but their honesty, determination, and understanding will make you keep turning the pages.
It's at times emotionally difficult to read and I found myself asking "why in the world won't these women just ADOPT already?!" They all had great jobs, steady income, and nice places to live and it sure as heck would have been a lot easier than this process! But that being said, they didn't want to adopt. They wanted their own babies and went about it their own way. Again, honest and incredibly personal.
You'll want to pass this one onto a friend when you're done reading it and I definitely encourage you to do so! This is a story for all of us, in one way or another, and the three gifted writers that participated in the creation of the book have given us more than a story. There's hope inside the pages.
Overall rating: 5 out of 5
Three Wishes: Our True Story of Good Friends, Bad Odds, Crushing Heartbreak, and One Little Thing That Inspired a Lot of Happiness
Carey Goldberg, Beth Jones, and Pamela Ferdinand
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